I know and I've got it :-D!
It's a carefully mixed set of parameters - love, respect, a sense of fun, an open-mind, a carefree approach and lots of chocolate cake. For my birthday, my dear daddy and my dear friends put together such a good night.
We had (in no particular order):
Me in a latex dress for the first time - whoooop!
Stunning display of fire whipping

40 needles and a lovely red ribbon
Blood

'His' carved into my backside

A PVC red catsuit and a short new hair-cut
My sister, her girlfriend, my very vanilla but totally liberated neighbour, lots of kinksters
Whips on my bottom and between my legs
Flogger - hard and soft, thumping and caressing
A cane - gentle persistence then, with a flick of the wrist, a more stinging blow
Knives - shiver. Lovely gorgeous cold steel held by a deft hand, the other keeping a calming presence on the back of my head
The shakes
A high like a haven't had for such a long time! Unable to focus, unable to hold a conversation - just an utterly blissful floating and out of body experience that lasted until we got to bed at 3am
Take That in the car
Naked men, a t-girl, rope, smiles, laughter, questions, grins, hand-holding, chuckles
And love. Love love love love love. Deep, knee trembling, tummy wriggling love.
Wow.
I love you daddy and thank you for giving me so much xxxxxxxx